One simple word wraps up how I feel – disappointed.
Have you ever experienced a rash of one type of human behavior, which has left you feeling not so settled?
In short (just a few examples) –
- The business man bends the truth to ensure his customer does not disrupt his day with additional phone calls. The deal was done, the sale was already made – paid for, so why did he need to act with integrity now? When his truth-bending came back to him, he told stories to his own superior to cover his tracks. Who did it hurt? Not him. It hurt his clients, and it hurt those that ultimately dealt with his clients.
- The young woman is asked how did her signature appear on a document that she “knew nothing about.” She then tells the story, “That woman made me sign those papers but would not explain what it was about.” Who did she hurt? Not herself. Did she hurt our business-colleague, the one that always so carefully helps everyone (explaining everything in detail)?
- A women openly reported, “They are lousy business-people. They do nothing for you.” In actuality, the service that she received went well beyond what is normally given. The dedication to her happiness was exceptional. She went on to tell stories of how mis-treated she was. Who did she hurt? Not herself. Perhaps she could hurt the “lousy” business-people if she were to continue to spread her own unhappiness.
The truth is, in all 3 of these cases, these people did hurt themselves.
The phrase, “The truth will set you free,” rang like a huge bell in my mind as I rummaged through the trough of non-truths. Trying to not judge. Hoping to shed the weight from my own disappointed shoulders.
The truth will set you free. Like simple math: 1) In order to be trusted, you are to be honest. 2) Not only tell the truth, but also admit to mistakes. 3) Never, ever, use another human being to mask your own weaknesses – admit to being less than perfect.
When a person accepts the responsibility of truthfulness they no longer need to lug around a broom and a dust pan to clean up the dirt they leave in their wake. They are set free.
I agree with you, Mary.
I’ve heard it said if you always tell the truth then you don’t have to “remember” anything.
I expect people, business or otherwise, to treat me as I treat them.
And still is comes as a surprise to me when I find I have been intentionally mistreated in some way. I just don’t understand their way of thinking.
Becky, you would think, at my age, I would be used to this type of thing. On the flip side of that thought, should we ever try to get used to it? Probably not. The best we can do, in my estimation, is try not to judge, practice grace as much as possible, and set the example.
Each of us has our own set of circumstances to deal with on a daily basis. I try to take that into consideration when it comes to others.
Off my soap-box now! Soap boxes are rather weak to stand on, not a permanent place to be. Ha.
I’ve heard it said that someone who can lie is capable of anything. So watch out for the liars you come across and always be truthful yourself. That way you don’t need to have such a good memory, either! My best to you.
Can you imagine trying to remember how to cover yourself, Diane? I like your words, “Watch out for the liars you come across and be truthful yourself.” It is much easier that way.
A person should know they are doing well if someone else finds it necessary to attack them unfairly to bring them down to “everyone else’s” level – being extraordinary in this world seems to consist of doing the extra ordinary things – tell the truth, do unto others, deliver what you promise – liars are dangerous but most especially to themselves – Hooray for you seeking the higher road –
If I could frame these wonderful comments! Believe me, though, they are framed in my mind…treasured.
I found peace with the situation today. I can never accept it, but I can deal with it. Sometimes it means quietly stepping away. As a good friend said, as she told her troubles today, “Bundle it up and give it to the one with the higher power.” Yes, ma’am.
Been there, done that!
Amy
And WE will again, Amy. Strength!
So true Mary!
Amy
Hi Mary,
I like your post. It is amazing how walking with truth, grace, and humility can transform a person from simply existing to living in abundance – to being blessed and being a blessing to others. I’m always puzzled by people who choose the low road. May your day be joy-filled.
Leslie
Leslie, and may your day be awesome! Joy-filled!!